Review – Fired Up about Consent – Sarah Ratchford

Women’s safety has become a topic of interest over recent months due to the deaths of Sarah Everard and Sabina Nessa. But not only these women. It is an issue worldwide and I am not going to go into detail about my thoughts on the subject. But I must admit that when I saw this book listed amongst upcoming audiobook releases, I was keen to request it.

A few weeks ago I watched the Channel 4 documentary, Rape: Who’s on Trial followed by the debate.

So let’s delve into this book.

Description:

According to the World Health Organization, one in three women will be sexually or physically assaulted in her lifetime. These rates are very similar for non-binary people and other feminized people, too. This is rape culture, and young adults are living through it here and now. Fired Up about Consent is a practical, survivor-informed primer for young people who want to learn how to build joyful, mutually satisfying sex lives and relationships.

In these pages, author Sarah Ratchford defines rape and sexual assault, busts the myths behind toothless messaging and outdated advice, and provides sex-positive scripts on how to ask for and offer a clear, enthusiastic, and freely given “Yes!” Along the way, Ratchford touches on topics such as #MeToo, gender identity, masturbation, virginity, porn, sex work, reporting assault, and more, all through a radically inclusive and intersectional lens.

The message is loud and clear: not only is consent sexy, it’s mandatory—and everyone deserves frank and empowering literacy around it. Only with empathy, compassion, and resistance can we move forward into a new culture of consent.

Genres: Health, Mind & Body; Teens & YA

My Thoughts:

I found myself nodding along as I was listening to this book.

So many issues and points of interest are raised in it.

Such as:

rape is no accident

our culture pities raped women

women are conscious of our own resilience

The existence of a law does not prevent rape

police are biased

men carry out rapes in a careful, calculated way

Survivors’ behaviour is questioned. The perpetrators are not put on the stand in a court of law.

Courts don’t serve survivors.

One of my favourite quotes:

You don’t owe anyone sex

There were many points raised and I found it a really interesting read. I think that there is a lot to take away from the book. I think that it is a good asset in terms of providing points that everyone, whatever their sexual orientation would benefit from reading.